Friends & Family

Although it may be hard to do, reaching out to those close to you can help get you through difficult moments. It is better not to go through this process alone, internalizing painful emotions. You have a partner who is committed to the same goals as you, and friends and family who are likely more than willing to help in whatever way they can.

Although friends and family may mean well, you may find that there are some people in your life who ‘get it’ better than others do. Advice such as ‘just relax and it will happen’, or ‘try not to think about it so much’, or stories of others’ experiences may or may not be what you want to hear. Old recipes such as “fertility is all in your head” or “take a vacation and you will get pregnant” do not work if you have a medical condition that requires diagnosis and treatment.

It is common for couples to withdraw from each other, their family and friends when they are dealing with infertility. This may be the first crisis you and your partner face together and you may not know how to offer and ask for support. Remember there is no shame in going through infertility. You can overcome this by learning strategies that help keep the lines of communication open and your relationship alive. For instance, communicate positive as well as negative feelings, keep your sense of humor and set aside time to enjoy each other’s company.

Your partner should not be your only means of support. Try to build a network of trusted family members and friends who you can turn to when you’re feeling down to take some pressure off your partner and don’t hesitate to seek professional help. Infertility can put a terrible strain on your emotional well-being and a mental health professional can help you get through rough periods.